by Bro. Elijah E. Abanto
When my father told that the children should be with their parents in the worship service by giving an example of a child from our church, a man answered and said, "That kid must be genius. And not all kids are geniuses." I could not but both smile and be sad at the same time.
I smiled because it was such a good compliment for a child. Everyone who knows that child will be happy if she was called "genius." But in my heart I was sad because that description was used to justify the separation of kids from the actual worship service. This is not a good justification to the practice of separating children from young people and adults. Anyone who thinks will say that this man did not think what he said.
But I cannot point a finger to those who think like this man. It is because first and foremost, The first generation of believers and members of the church were grown-ups--meaning, they were saved as adults or in teens. And because of this, they are more familiar how to treat their own age, because they could understand them better. On the other hand, the fruit of this situation is that they do not know how to treat the children in the church. They were not children when they were drawn to church; they don't know what to do if this happens and that happens. So the method they derive into to remove the disorder the children make in the worship is to do what was done to them before they were saved--in other words, when they were just children--to be separated from adults. Or, they depend upon the child psychologists or experts for knowledge on how to cope with them. And in the beginning, it seems plausible enough, no problem--because really, the nuisance will be eliminated--they can worship God without "disturbance." But when the time comes we become perplexed, "Why did they become like that?"
But, with honest humility, I can say (through God's grace) that I know more on how to treat the children in the church--because I grew up in the church, in the pastor's family. I was saved as a child, I was baptized as a child--and here am I, by the grace of God, standing for and serving Jesus with all my heart and mind.
Did I have to be a genius in order to behave properly in the service, to listen, to take notes, and say, "Amen"? No. Children know and do as they learn. I learned to worship because I was raised to worship with my family in the church. I learned to read my Bible and pray because I was raised reading it, and not just listening to a Bible story in Sunday school and pray simple "Dear Lord Jesus" prayers. I was taught, that's why. I learned theology even though I was a child back then. I just needed to be saved to understand. And taught. I was never separated from them. Thank you, Daddy and Mommy. You always include me. Isn't it beautiful?
A child doesn't need to be a genius to be included in the service or serve the Lord. To encourage you, here are some examples from our church:
When my father told that the children should be with their parents in the worship service by giving an example of a child from our church, a man answered and said, "That kid must be genius. And not all kids are geniuses." I could not but both smile and be sad at the same time.
I smiled because it was such a good compliment for a child. Everyone who knows that child will be happy if she was called "genius." But in my heart I was sad because that description was used to justify the separation of kids from the actual worship service. This is not a good justification to the practice of separating children from young people and adults. Anyone who thinks will say that this man did not think what he said.
But I cannot point a finger to those who think like this man. It is because first and foremost, The first generation of believers and members of the church were grown-ups--meaning, they were saved as adults or in teens. And because of this, they are more familiar how to treat their own age, because they could understand them better. On the other hand, the fruit of this situation is that they do not know how to treat the children in the church. They were not children when they were drawn to church; they don't know what to do if this happens and that happens. So the method they derive into to remove the disorder the children make in the worship is to do what was done to them before they were saved--in other words, when they were just children--to be separated from adults. Or, they depend upon the child psychologists or experts for knowledge on how to cope with them. And in the beginning, it seems plausible enough, no problem--because really, the nuisance will be eliminated--they can worship God without "disturbance." But when the time comes we become perplexed, "Why did they become like that?"
But, with honest humility, I can say (through God's grace) that I know more on how to treat the children in the church--because I grew up in the church, in the pastor's family. I was saved as a child, I was baptized as a child--and here am I, by the grace of God, standing for and serving Jesus with all my heart and mind.
Did I have to be a genius in order to behave properly in the service, to listen, to take notes, and say, "Amen"? No. Children know and do as they learn. I learned to worship because I was raised to worship with my family in the church. I learned to read my Bible and pray because I was raised reading it, and not just listening to a Bible story in Sunday school and pray simple "Dear Lord Jesus" prayers. I was taught, that's why. I learned theology even though I was a child back then. I just needed to be saved to understand. And taught. I was never separated from them. Thank you, Daddy and Mommy. You always include me. Isn't it beautiful?
A child doesn't need to be a genius to be included in the service or serve the Lord. To encourage you, here are some examples from our church:
- Joshua, when he was just a baby, could be silenced while in the service by command of the pastor. Jemima, who was barely two years old, has just sang the whole "Jesus Loves Me" in the church as a special number.
- Daniel Joseph (also barely two years old) will always say "Amen" at the important points of our pastor's preaching. Also, other kids same age as he close their eyes while praying.
- Justin (who has just turned 7) know how to sing complicated hymns with just reading the words in the song book, like "When the Saints Go Marching In" and "Make Me A Blessing" with no mistakes. The kids in our church love hymns just as choruses.
- In our church kids 3 years old are joining the visitation, and giving out tracts. Examples: Jhona (4) and Joshua (3). Many of our children ages 12 below know the 13 points of witnessing (Operation Go), and actually, two have done it in the field: John Mark (12) and Jisilyn (10). The only reason why the others can't do it in actual was because they are shy.
- Kids are included in the Bible quiz with the older ones! And they score!
- By the way, all these kids are behaved in the worship service. We have approximately 40 children in our service, members and non-members.
That and many other examples can prove that. That starts in how these people look at these little ones: the pastor, the parents, the members. They barely know doctrine, but they can be taught. They barely know issues, but they can be taught. They are naturally disorderly, but theycan be ordered, if they are taught and trained. We need to just teach them!
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